Why do so few of us actually achieve our goals?

We’ve all been there.

You set a goal, something you really want. The excitement builds, you can see what it looks like to achieve that goal, you're already living in that future, you want that life. You think about it constantly, you dream about it, you might even write it down and then…nothing.

Days pass. Weeks. Maybe even months. The goal stays there, floating in the background of your mind like a tab you never quite close. You do still kind of want to do it, but you tell yourself, maybe now isn't the right time, maybe when Im more experienced, when I'm a bit older, maybe I'm too old, when I've lost the weight, when the kids are older, when I'm through this particular stage in my life, the list goes on and on and on all contributing to a grinding standstill of your goals and dreams.

So what gives? Why do we struggle to take action on the very things we say we want?

Is it laziness? It is just me? It is that Im not that type of person? Is it because its just not the right time? Is it that I'm not the right person?

Nope - It is Human Nature.

Let’s get one thing straight: it’s not because you’re lazy or unmotivated. There are deeper, very human reasons behind the stuckness. Here are a few of the most common:

1. Fear (in all its sneaky forms)

• Fear of failure: What if I try and it doesn’t work?

• Fear of success: What if I can't handle it when it does?

• Fear of judgment: What will others think?

• Fear of change: What if life becomes unfamiliar?

Fear often disguises itself as procrastination, perfectionism, self-doubt, or “waiting for the right time.”

2. Overwhelm and Decision Fatigue

When you’re juggling life, work, family and mental load, it’s no wonder you’re too exhausted to pursue your dreams. Even simple next steps can feel like climbing a mountain when your brain is burnt out.

3. Your Goal Isn’t Fully Aligned

Sometimes we set goals based on what we think we should want, not what we truly want. Without emotional connection, it’s hard to stay committed.

4. Lack of Structure or Support

Even if the desire is there, a lack of clear direction can kill momentum. Without a plan, accountability, or someone to cheer you on, it’s easy to drift or give up.

So, what can I do if I really do want to achieve my goal?

This is where I have found working with a coach has been a game changer! Here are a list of how my coach has helped me to push though the fear and resistance and move closer towards my goals.

1. Clarity & Focus

My coach has helped me to get crystal clear on what my goal is. Digging down into why it matters, and who is that future version of me and how am I going to get there. They also provide me with practical tools and techniques turning that dream into clear, achievable steps.

2. Shifting my Mindset

Together, we uncover the real reasons why I am stuck. When I am feeling the resistance (that comes regularly!) she asks the right questions that uncover the fears, beliefs, or old patterns that are holding me back. Once we shine a light on them it is far easier to work through them with practical tools like journalling and mindset shifts.

3. Accountability & Motivation

Every month we have a group accountability call that ensures we all stay honest to the actions that we committed to at the beginning of the month, but is is also time to reflect on what went well (to give ourselves evidence and self belief of our success) and also on what didn't go so well so we can adapt for the coming month. Having someone in your corner changes everything. Suddenly you aren't alone trying to work it all out by yourself. I have someone who keeps me on track, celebrates my wins with me, and gently calls me out when I'm playing small or getting in my own way.

4. Confidence & Empowerment

Having a coach that believes in you and is helping you every step of the way allows you to believe in yourself. You make real progress towards your goals and in turn that builds EVIDENCE. Through this evidence you can see for yourself (even if you are one of the biggest self doubters like me) that IT IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING. From here you start building trust in yourself, a trust that you can follow through on those dreams, that you wont quit when it gets tough (and it will!), that you are worthy of the results that you achieve. The more action you take, the more capable you feel. It is that momentum that drives you towards your goal.

Ready to Stop Sitting on Your Dreams?

Just know that you don’t have to figure it all out alone. Know that it IS the right time for you, and it is time to start letting go of those excuses. If you want that dream bad enough then you owe it to your future self to make it happen. What you do need is the right kind of support to get unstuck and move forward with confidence. Just look at the highest achievers you know, do they go it alone? Olympic medalists? World class footballers? High flying entrepreneurs? One of the things that they all have in common - a coach!

As an experienced wellness therapist and coach, I help people like you reconnect to what matters, simplify the path forward, and actually enjoy the process of growing. I can help you gain clarity on who that future self is, what it will take to get there and ongoing support to achieve that dream. Whether your goal is getting in shape, changing careers, moving house, studying for a qualification or anything else that will move your life forward then I can help you to achieve it with coaching. I will help you to refine the goal, support you in navigating the challenges, give you the tools and techniques to stay on track, celebrate your wins and finally keeping you accountable to your actions.

If it is time for you to finally move forward with confidence then contact me for a FREE 30-minute discovery call - no pressure, no obligation just a chance to talk through where you’re at and how I can support you. Im excited to hear from you and to help you achieve your dreams.

If you’re ready to stop circling your goals and finally start living them send me a DM or book your free call via my website. Your future self will thank you.

You already have the dream. Let's build the action plan to get there TOGETHER.